Is there a battle going on in your mind? is it the “will I ever be good enough” battle? It is a constant war with some of us, myself included. One way I have learned How to Win the War Within is to develop a clear understanding the power of my words have over my life. Do You Believe in The Power of Positive Speaking?

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(*See Also the Big Black Dog Theory by Clicking Here!) If you believe in self-help, then you have probably heard all about positive self-talk. Perhaps in the beginning you felt a bit silly saying such flowery and loving things to yourself. However, if you stick with it, it will work wonders for you and for your life.

Positive self-talk isn’t just statements that you look in the mirror and repeat to yourself over and over as you roll your eyes because you really do not believe in them. And, the concept works best when there are certain key elements incorporated into them from the beginning.


In order for positive self talk to work, you must believe in what you are saying. Self Talk that is empty or half-hearted will not work for you ever. In order for self talk to work you need to deeply believe in the statement that you are making.

For example, if you are saying to yourself that you are successful and you are really not feeling it, you may wish to change your words a bit. For example, you may wish to state to yourself that you are capable of being successful. Start at that point. Sometimes by trying to convince yourself that you are successful when you are not in the present moment, may make you feel worse.

Start with a statement that let’s you know that you are perfectly capable just like anyone else of being successful. Once you begin to truly believe that you are capable, then you will take action steps to prove yourself right.

Be Present

For an self talk to work, you have to try to stay present with yourself in the moment. Being present will allow you to act as though you are already successful. When you do not travel to the past history or worry about the future, but stay in the present, you are more able to utilize self talk for their greatest success.

Use statements such as, “In this moment, I am capable of achieving success.” When you use current moment statements, you reap greater rewards.

Use Your Senses

When you use your senses, you are better able to feel your self talk to be real. Feel what it feels like to be a published author or a successful entrepreneur. Smell the scent of the ocean as you say your vows to your new beloved. Affirm that you are lovable and deserve love as you use all your senses to heighten the affirmation.


Be consistent with your self talk and repeat the things that are important to you daily. If you can, say them at the same time every day or for a certain number of times each day. For example, you may wish to say that you are deserving of love every day, three times per day.

So, if you wish to really make positive self talk work for you, you have to feel them, believe them, be in the present moment, and be intentional about saying them daily.

In this manner, before you know it, everything that you have believed and spoken over and about yourself will become true in your daily life. What is the loving-est thing you said to yourself today? Tell us in the comments!

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